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Occupation "Parent"

"Occupation - parent"- seminar and training in the contemporary methods of communication between parents and children aiming at reducing the number of conflicts and providing for a healthier family atmosphere. It'll teach you how to cope with the everyday problems which the children get to your attention, to help in their growing up like persons, in looking for their proper way of development, in becoming conscious of the huge responsibility together with the enormous happiness of being a parent.
Duration: 15 hours

To be a parent is a job - the most important we learn in our lives. Doing it requires acquiring professional secrets, problematic areas, and spheres of application. On the level of knowledge depends not only our happiness and self-acceptance, but also the happiness of our most beloved ones - our children. Our consultations are aimed at helping You learn how to avoid ineffective parental strategies of authoritarian or hyper-protecting behaviour; how to help Your children become autonomous persons, i.e. - being a good parent, learning specific knowledge and techniques in your most significant areas.

Participants:

The consultations and training are for those parents who:

• Wish to have permanent healthy relations with their children build upon competence and emotional devotion
• Have problems communicating with their children leading to continuous conflicts which can't be handled without professional help

When do parents need help?

When in communication their child shows symptoms of deep derangement of the interpersonal relations:

• Discontent, negativism, resistance, riot
  
• Malice, anger, hostility
• Aggressiveness, revengefulness
  
• Hiding their feelings, lying
  
• Blaming of the acquaintances and friends, informing against them, being sly
  
• Obedience, servility
  
• Courting, licking Your shoes
  
• Fear of the new, conformism, lack of creativity
  
• Withdraw into theirselves, day-dreaming
  
• Passiveness/passivity/inertness, apathy, depression
  
• Different kinds of abusive consumption - food, watching TV, computer games, alcohol, drugs and so on

What is the purpose of consulting/training?

• Looking for the source of the problem and its elimination
• Healing of the family relations and respectively the family atmosphere
• Understanding of oneself own needs
• Acquiring techniques for solving conflicts

What do you win?

• You'll get to know the principles of communication
  
• You'll get the knowledge about the difficulties of communication and how to overwhelm them
  
• You'll acquire techniques for talking to your children without controlling them or making them feel guilty
  
• You'll be able to deeply understand your children's feelings
  
• You'll learn to react adequately and with understanding even to the youngest children
  
• You'll acquire skills for active listening of the child and partner
  
• You'll learn how to name unacceptable behaviour
  
• You'll start identifying your own needs
  
• You'll master strategies of reducing and avoiding conflicts
  
• You'll start building relations upon cooperation and respect towards the personality of the child and Your partner
  
• More peace and love

What are the benefits for the children?

• They'll start sharing openly and sincerely feelings, thoughts, ideas
  
• They'll develop independent thinking, imagination and a creative potential
  
• Will learn how to avoid inside and interpersonal conflicts
  
• Will develop an empathy towards children of their own age and adults
  
• Will learn of self-discipline and self-control
  
• They'll lay the beginnings of positive self-building up

What do you lose:

• The time you spend in tiresome quarrels and senseless/pointless stubbornness
  
• The torments for not being a good parent and not being able to grow up your children properly
  
• The lack of your own confidence
  
• Your negativism
  
• The frequent conflicts within the family
  
• The neurotic children

Basic terms:

• Active listening - a way of working with feelings, aiming at reaching the depths of a problem, its expressing and eliminating
  
• I-messages - a way to reveal to our partner without accusing what the consequences of their behaviour are; an opportunity to express one's own feelings and naming the problem without anger or aggressiveness
  
• The method "I win-You win" for solving conflicts - a technique for solving problems without the use of authoritarian behaviour and control, an ability to control the situation and not the situation controlling You; a method where there are no losers - both sides of the conflict win and where the wisdom of the parent is combined with the imagination of the child